Who am I?

What does it mean to truly know yourself?
Can I feel forever at home in my own heart?
Is that feeling that there’s more to me and life just a fantasy, or is it true?
I want to live with meaning, passion, and purpose, but why is it so elusive?
Where do I begin to explore all that’s hidden inside of me, but that I can sense is there?
What does it mean to truly know myself?
Can I feel forever at home in my own heart?
Is that feeling that there’s more to me and life just a fantasy, or is it true?
I want to live with meaning, passion, and purpose, but why is it so elusive?
Where do I begin to explore all that’s hidden inside of me, but that I can sense is there?

Who would you be without your protections? Who would you be if your parents had given you what you really needed? Are you simply a product of your conditioning or is there something essential and unique about you? Can that conditioning be undone? Transformed? Do you have a feeling you could live bigger? Love bigger? Do you wonder why you still get triggered even though you’ve worked hard to become more self-aware?

We see in everyone a more authentic and alive version of the self inside, waiting to be discovered. There is a way to find that essential you, to fan the embers of your very soul, and let the eternal flame of the truest you live your life.

We can’t tell you exactly what will happen when you find that you, nor can you plan or intend for it. What makes this process different from most therapies and personal empowerment models is that it’s not about you having to change – it’s about no longer pretending you’re anything other than who you are. Who is that? That’s what you get to find out when you lovingly deconstruct all of who isn’t you. 

Personhood Inquiry
We all begin as a mix of soulful qualities and protection mechanisms. Take a moment to consider what aspects of you feel like the deepest, truest, essential and most authentic you. Write them down. Then consider what other parts of you exist to protect those aspects.

Therapy for the Soul?

For Edenity, the aim of Personhood is to heal the soul-level fear of being: to be alive, to be vulnerable, to love, to engage in our passion work, and to embody all of who we are whether people notice or not.

The Personhood dharma in Edenity is Emotional Body Ensoulment (EBE): a soul-level therapeutic process in which we differentiate our protection mechanisms from our true soulful selves so we can access core wounding from this life and before.

While it may look similar to other methods from a distance, it’s distinguished by three key principles.

  1. We are responsible for the contents of our unconscious.
  2. Human beings are emotive before they are willful, mental, physical, or energetic.
  3. The personal self is spiritually sacred.

While these premises may seem simple, embodying them is a complex and challenging journey. EBE is fundamentally a deconstructive rather than constructive process, based on the assumption that to really heal it’s necessary to embody the soul as human in this realm.

This is a stark contrast from working with yourself energetically or mentally, to ventilate or transcend difficult feelings and build more effective coping mechanisms. EBE assumes the embodied soul is capable of feeling anything, and it’s only our protection that needs coping mechanisms.

Can You Relate?

We have collected and simplified some typical questions and concerns we hear over and over again. Maybe our answers will help you a bit. And if you want to go deeper into a topic, listen to the appropriate episode from our podcast “The Heart of Soul”.

We’re sorry for your struggle but also congratulate you. Edenity would say you’re inability to attain happiness means there’s actually something right about you. In our picture, the quest for happiness is part of the human problem.

Listen to “The Heart of Soul” podcast episode 62

Especially now, relationships reveal what isn’t whole in ourselves. The first step is to see that a big part of why you’re in a relationship is to heal hidden wounds.

Listen to “The Heart of Soul” podcast episode 46

Edenity sees narcissism and altruism as two sides of an unhealthy coin, despite what we’re conditioned to believe. The key is being responsive to rather than responsible for others.

Listen to “The Heart of Soul” podcast episode 49

Like sex and love, money illuminates wounds inside us that cause splits between our spirituality and humanity. Nothing is unspiritual in the human experience when we sufficiently heal.

Listen to “The Heart of Soul” podcast episode 28

Many of us raised in a narrow-minded religion look for freedom by picking and choosing from different models, but there are negative consequences to this that aren’t usually appreciated.

Listen to “The Heart of Soul” podcast episode 9

It means you have high standards for love, congratulations! Edenity offers that the human heart needs more than this in order to heal, so it's understandable that you feel something is missing.

Listen to “The Heart of Soul” podcast episode 63

Why We Become Strangers to Ourselves

The love you needed as a child meant having caregivers who felt what you felt, in real-time, and including why you felt that way. We offer that this is how love is supposed to move from a parent to a child. It’s a very high bar, and while your parents surely did the best they could, all of our parents fall short.

As children, we blame ourselves for that. The agony of colliding with the protective walls covering our parents’ hearts recapitulates our first soul fear: the fear of being. This happens long before we think, or self-identify, and is stored at the deepest levels of our emotional body. Most people never directly experience that, yet it drives all of our behavior. It’s an intractable sense of loneliness, profound unworth, and a sense of being existentially wrong.

These feelings are so unbearable that in order to survive, we innocently control them as best we can. Unable to get the love we need from our caregivers, we contort ourselves like a pretzel in order to fit their reality, believing we must leave behind the aspects of us that don’t fit if we are to be loved.

This is what you feel when you have the sense that there’s more to you than your experience. And because nothing real can ever truly be lost, the forgotten, hidden away aspects of your very soul wait to be rediscovered, rescued, and restored to become whole.

Personhood Inquiry
Can you recall interactions with your parents where they put their reality over yours, even as an adult, when you knew better? Or when they gave you unsolicited advice that felt clumsy and didn’t fit?
Imagine what this was like for you as a child when rather than be curious about your experience, their agenda was to impose their worldview onto you.
Take a moment to write down the ways you didn’t feel your parents saw you.

You Are What You’ve Been Looking For

This isn’t about blaming your parents. Their parents weren’t perfect either. It’s about squarely facing what was missing so you can fill that in with your own love and become who you were destined to be.

When who you essentially are is running your life, rather than the person you had to become to survive your childhood, everything changes, and a lot of it unintentionally. Rather than having to work to change your intentions, actions, and outcomes, the more soulfully authentic “you” organically expresses itself in life naturally. And life responds.

Ensoulment, Not Just Improvement

While EBE has psychotherapeutic elements, it goes deeper. We facilitate the emergence of your soul, rather than improve your functionality. In this way, you don’t turn into who you want, you turn into who you really are.

In EBE, we don’t work on your relationships, we work with you as an individual in your relationships to process barriers to intimacy. We don’t work on manifestation, we seek to find and feel the unworth that causes you to come from a scarcity orientation.

And we don’t help you improve your coping skills. Instead, we help you feel the wounds that required you to have coping mechanisms in the first place.

The results of living as a soulful self are myriad. When you don’t need to control down your emotions, you gain back the energy that was unconsciously spent managing them, because a healthy self doesn’t need to manage emotions. You just feel them. And a soulfully embodied self can do that effortlessly.

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